Men? We Are Quite Simple!!!

We all have our own personal preference of the qualities we would like our mate to have. 90% of the time, what you expect of another person very rarely happens. Women are very complex and emotional...at times they are even confusing. Men are very simple and obvious with a hint of confusion. So in my attempt to open the playing field to one side, i will express location in a home. What i mean by that is, "I" feel that there is 4 MAIN locations in the home that needs constant work. Of course we all know that a healthy relationship that can withstand tests and trials should be built on trust and honesty but there's more. Once you have established this honesty and trust, its time to add to it. Visualize a stretch of open land. Now visualize building a home there. Once that home is properly built...now its time to "add on". For the people that consider themselves spiritual...the bible says, "We are FOREVER coming into the knowledge of". If we are forever learning then we should be forever building. Complacency is the biggest loser in a relationship. First we lose that zeal to please our mate regularly then "comfort" sits in. Coming from a male point of view...i hope that i can open my heart and mind in a writing form that will allow you ladies to understand us better. Now, back to the 4 MAIN locations i mentioned earlier.

1. Kitchen
2. Living Room
3. Bedroom
4. Back Yard

Understand that i don't mean these locations literally...this is what you would call MENtal areas of interest.

The kitchen, oh yeah that is the main area that we both confuse one another in. They say that the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. In some cases this is true and in some this is not. We go by what we have been told by our mothers, fathers, friends, and siblings but, the truth is every man is "customized". We don't like the things the next man would like necessarily. In the kitchen, we love for a woman to have that gift of being able to cook or put together that "magical" meal when there is nothing in the fridge. This is such a turn on for men. Envision a woman in a apron (or tee shirt and shorts as most woman do lol) at a stove or counter chopping and cooking away with a unshaken confidence. That in itself is enough to make a man melt. We love to give a woman that power in the kitchen and allow her to establish a place in the house that she gets pride from creating. I didn't come from the era where i feel like the woman belongs in the kitchen...but when a woman can create something in a place that has such a feminine aura, its like euphoric for a man."Some" women rather us in the kitchen. That is not a problem but where do you establish your space in the home if the most flattering place is taken by us? The kitchen is a place for a man to not only understand but accept a woman's passion for customizing for him. However you choose to do it (nude, half nude or fully dressed) the action itself is fully appreciated by us. The kitchen is a place where the man can fall in love with a woman. It may even be a place where a woman can fall in love with him. THE KITCHEN!

The living room...hummm this is a special place of interest, i like to say. The living room is where the most chemistry is created. It doesn't matter whether it be the floor, couch, chair, or small table, we learn one another in this area. Imagine sitting with your mate, watching a movie. Naturally so, the woman positions herself closer to the man allowing him to have that "feel" of her being close. To you that may not mean as much but to a man all these things added up, equals his position as man. Laying on his chest or arm comfortably gives the hearts a chance to connect on a level that the eye cant see. The woman periodically glances up to him to ask a question about the movie, the man pauses it and answers...then continue it. These small things are key in a healthy relationship. Just like the kitchen is "normally" the place where a woman takes pride in, the living room is it for a man (not all men). Most guys watch football, basketball, hockey, baseball and stay glued to it until its done. A good woman understands this and gives him his space or even join him. There is nothing more sexier than a woman that likes sports. A man gets a dominate feeling in the living room. Take the remote for example...this may be funny to you but when company is over (another man), who controls the remote? That's his place, just like some men are with their garage. Most of the time its not done intentionally, its almost as if its programmed in us lol. The living room is a place where the man can appreciate you being patient and understanding of him. This too is a place where you all can fall in love. THE LIVING ROOM!

Next up is my personal favorite, the bedroom. All of us in a relationship should be very familiar with this place. If your are not, this may just be the reason your relationship is failing. Compassion and intimacy is extremely important for a man. As stated earlier, the kitchen may be the woman's area...the living room may be the mans area...well the bedroom is equal. This is where you can be as competitive as you ever want to be. This is where a woman can feel like "THA MAN" and the man can...well...you catch my drift. Just like we don't necessarily like what another man likes in the kitchen...in the bedroom, the same rules apply. What may have been used in your previous relationships to "turn him out" may not work in this one. This is where customizing is suppose to be perfected. Lets talk "grown folk" talk for a minute. In middle school we started to appreciate the early stages of a females body but in high school that changed. We then (in high school and college) started to figure out what we were good at sexually...what could make her respond in a certain way. I'm sure you women can relate as well. Now as adults, we should know what we are good at and what needs work. When you are willing to do whatever to please your mate (within the areas of comfort) he becomes more "proud" of not only what you can do but "proud" that he is the one you choose to do that with. Sex is not only physical but emotional and even spiritual at times. When two beings that are in love, commit to a heartfelt encounter that's genuine..its like being in the arms of perfection. Be willing to give him what he "needs", because if you truly love him...he not only will know it but feel it as well...physically and emotionally. THE BEDROOM!

The backyard, this is the relationship builder. OK lets review a bit before we start this location. The Kitchen is normally for the woman, the Living Room is normally for the man, the Bedroom is normally for both and here we come to the Backyard..who is this area for? Well, this is what i call the 70/30 area. The backyard would be quality time...doing nothing but doing alot. This is the emotional side of the male. Picture this, sitting in back yard underneath a canopy, two chairs, drinks of your choice and you and her. The wind blowing just right, the mood is calm and the conversations seem to flow as freely as thoughts. She opens up to him, he opens up to her. They have moments of seriousness followed by moments of laughter and joking. They look out to the sky's and enjoy life, with one another. The man enjoys this time but not as much as the woman. Maybe he does in some cases. This is when you invest time in one another and not a place, things or stuff. This is when you are secluded and have nothing but your minds and hearts...as it should be. This is where the man gains that respect. Not the normal respect, but that respect that defends you, that respect that commend you, that respect that worship you. This is where you customize one another. Enjoy that togetherness regardless of ideas, bias's or belief...connect on a level that's bigger than what society has deemed as "suitable". Become that backyard. THE BACKYARD!

Many of my views may not be agreed upon by all, but understand i played both sides while allowing you to understand one particular side. I don't know your situation, i don't know your relationship but what i do know is these locations are real. I cant tell you exactly what to do or how to do it, this is where common sense along with trial and error comes into play. Don't be afraid to customize your relationship, because in the end it becomes the exact way you want it. These things are never an overnight process but the ending results are bliss.

As you can see, a man is not hard to please. We actually just view things differently than you do. No matter how much you say you know us or how complicated you think we are...We Are Quite Simple!

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