"Husbands and Wives"

While sitting in the park watching couples interact and laugh, I reflect on what i really see. Things on the outside looks great. Its almost like the model that seems to have every man drooling and get exclusive access to places because of her beauty but is torn in the inside. No stability, no comfort, no certainty. As i looked at the couples, i found out that there is a deeper problem in society today...that's understanding. Let me explain further...

If you were to get into your car (a reliable source of commuting too and fro) and notice that the gas is low...the next decision you would make is where is the nearest gas station. You would mentally prepare yourself for what is necessary for you to continue to be able to enjoy your vehicle without any mechanical interruptions. You would not only know WHERE to go to get this, but also HOW LONG it would take you to get there and also HOW MUCH you will put in. Now, go along with me...If this is something that you RELY on daily and you DEPEND on it, why don't we put this much work into our lives and heart?

I began to look at the ways we communicate as male and females. I understand that if being approached by a male saying "ay psssss, ay let me holla at you" shouldn't get your attention but in some cases it does. While the gentleman way of an approach, "Excuse me, i couldn't help but notice your presence...my name is (handshake)" seems to only exist in novels or romance movies. See these are things that society has deemed as "weak" or "no game". Why must a real man need game to not game a real woman? When does the genuine person get introduced?

Then i began to look at the way we view one another. We normally go for the "look" of a person instead of what we cant see. IF FAITH IS THE THINGS THAT ARE HOPED FOR BUT NOT SEEN, (and that's the greatest belief to have) WHY CANT THE UNSEEN IN A MAN OR WOMAN BE THE GREATEST FOR YOU? We get stuck on "how he makes me feel" (which last as long as your tweet or update on facebook) "he makes me smile" (is smiling what your really doing, or being entertained) "he doesn't judge me" (in relationships judgement is a form of correction) "her body is soo sexy" (give it some time, it fades) "she makes feel like the man" (so you want someone who feeds your ego)....all these things i just named are natural...can be seen.

Then we get into the POTENTIAL of a person. The "he/she has a great heart" or "they are really sweet people". Then you have a lot of people who aren't single, but really are. Their relationship is a reflection of what they want instead of what they need. We fall in love with the very idea of loving someone and make it work. Example: I was driving days ago and i suffered a blown tire. I make my way to a tire store that told me that, that tire for my rims would cost me $180. I said, "what, you gotta be kiddin me". Then he said, "now we have another tire in the back that's used, it has minor damage but it will work". I began to think about it...i thought well i do want to get rid of my rims and get some new ones so i wont have the tire for long so yeah. I then say, "aight how much yall go hit me fo", "ummmm $30 dollars out the door". I say, "cool lets do it". I had the money but didnt want to spend it because of a THOUGHT.

Its just like relationship expectations....we put people (used tire) in our lives that only suppose to be there for a while but MAKE them work. When in fact, we could have just gotten the new tire. True, it would be a sudden change, a momentary discomfort, a little wait but it would have been brand new...with A WARRANTY. Making something work instead of working for it to work is societies definition of a "happy home" or "healthy relationship". We constantly say, "im tryn to make it work"...is good when the intent is there. When i say intent, i mean heart...when i say heart...i mean God. Now correct me if im wrong, the bible says, "Only God knows the heart". So, if God is the only person that knows the heart...how can our intent be there when he isn't present?

I once said in a song "If im really that good, or really that great, then why am i from the hood and feel like death is my fate/ then he (God) said wait, i died to give you life and a great one...you didnt have patience so you made one...that was your fault"!

See we act on our own accounts and then want to ask God to fix it. Can a doctor sew back on an arm and make it fully operational once its been severed? Can you put air in a basketball and expect it to work perfectly if it has a gash in it? No, we have to not call on God AFTER...the fall but call on him BEFORE the triumph.

I once again said in a song "I know you wanna ask him (God) where yo life at, woman where yo man at and men where you wife at...his love will take you where they flying them kites at but yo faith is where they spend saturday nights at, the club/ sin got you like a drug so you bypass a MAN and spend yo life with a SCRUB"

Women go for that man that "has alot in common with me" and men goes for that woman that "don't run her mouth as much". These things are standards set by society. Actually they are lowered standards if you really think about it. I asked a person once, "if i was sick or down and didn't know what to do, what would you do"? She said, "I would pray for you, OUT LOUD". Just imagine what the answer would be from a God sent, God fearing woman.

I didn't write this to make anyone feel less of a person because of how they think or who they are with, but i have been noticing the increase in failed relationships. Its time we stop pointing the finger and start looking at ourselves...you could be establishing a life of ruin based on "happiness". The bible does say, "seek happiness" but it also says "there is a time to cry", do we go around crying all day? There is an order in which things should be done.

So, that man you see around that has that great personality or that woman that you see that has that great body...could be yours if you obey the word. God said, "i will give you the DESIRES of your heart" but he also said, "do not be unequally yoked". He also said "he that finds a wife, finds a good thing" but he also said "a quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm". One scripture sums this up "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added to you". There you have it!!

When dealing with relationships, you are dealing with another being, another soul, another spirit...God has the answers.

I heard a person say, "imma jus do me for a while" or "im tryn to find myself". You cant "do you" or "find yourself" if God is not involved. If we were created in his likeness and image, only he can help us find ourselves...we came from him ORIGINALLY. In that time of confusion, God wants you alone...all to him so he has time to work on you. You ever wonder why when you are at your weakest...Mr. "great" comes along...then turns out not so great...its deception by the enemy. The enemy uses anger to show us "avenues" and we take them and damage ourselves more. The bible says that the enemy is NOW ATTACKING THE MIND. The way we think, the way we view things, people and life. Don't be confused by this...the bible will give you guidance.

If you are just patient, wait on God and obey....God will give you your desires....he promised it and God don't lie.